February 15, 2017
don’t need to give a Valentine to your children to let them know that you love
them. To build your child’s self-esteem,
make sure your children hear these five messages regularly:
- You are loved.
A parent’s love is the foundation of a child’s self-esteem. Children who know they are loved – no
matter what they do – will come to believe in their own self-worth and
- You are secure. Children want their parents to set rules
and limits. They want their parents
to supervise their behavior – even when they don’t act that way! In a world that is very scary to
children at times, the structure you set will help them feel secure and
- You are you.
All children are different –even within the same family
structure! Learning about
children’s unique talents and interests helps them build confidence and
therefore self-esteem. For example,
if your child expresses concern about the environment, you might involve
the whole family in recycling. If
your child loves music, find ways to develop their interest and talent. If your child struggles with math or
writing, ask their teacher for ways to help but also accept that it
is very typical to have strengths in some school subjects and not in others. Accept kids for who they are – with
strengths and weaknesses.
- You matter.
You make a difference in this family. Your ideas and concerns matter to
us. We want you to wear a seatbelt
in the car and a helmet when you ride your bike because we care what
happens to you. Children sometimes
resist the rules but when we explain our expectations and set
limitations, they know that they matter to us.
- You are growing up. As children grow older, they need more
responsibility. Even preschool kids
can have chores and responsibilities at home that contribute to the family
effort. When they are responsible
and following through on small things at home and at school, then they can “earn” more freedom. You will want to adjust some rules when children are able to
handle more freedom, and a good way to start is by offering choices - you
as the parent set up two or three options that are appropriate and then
the child gets to decide.
February is the month for love, friendship, good
will, and inclusion. Talk to your
children about what is important to you and listen to what your child feels is
important. Happy Valentine’s Day!
Also, I hope that all of you have a very special Presidents' Week and all of you "Sharpen the Saw" with
your families by doing the things that you love.
Jerry Jones, Principal
P.S. Be sure to download the newsletter below (Hawk Highlights) to see more information each week about all the exciting things that are happening at Solana Ranch.
Think Win-Win Quote of the Week:
“Win-win is a belief in the Third Alternative. It’s not your way or my way; it’s a better
way, a higher way.”
~ Stephen Covey